Notice the body language.  The body speaks more often than words.  Body language is the quiet, secret and most powerful language of all.  According to experts, our non-verbal language communicates about 50% of what we really mean (voice tonality contributes 38%) while words themselves contribute a mere 7%.  Other studies have have found that our body can "speak" up to 93% of what we really mean.  Our bodies send out messages constantly and often we don't recognize that we're communicating a lot more than we realize.

Take this quiz and see what your body language says about you.  I took the quiz.  Sadly, I'm a flirt..... which puts me in the category I despise at this moment 'cause this is what my entry is about.

Now......... On to the point.  My free consultation.  You can thank me later.  But first let me get this out of the way.  I'm a blunt person..... not very tactful.  I don't mean to offend.

According to Dictionary.com, these are the definitions for flirt and friendly.  This could be valuable information for a "flirt-er" and a "flirt-ee".

flirt   (flûrt)
verb. flirt·ed, flirt·ing, flirts syn: banter, chat up, come hither, come on, coquet, dally, dilly-dally, disport, eyeball, fool, gam, gold dig, hit on, lead on, linger with, lollygag, monkey with, ogle, philander, pick up, pitch, play, proposition, sport, string along, tease, toy, trifle, vamp, wanton, wink at, wolf-whistle

1. To make playfully romantic or sexual overtures.
2. To deal playfully, triflingly, or superficially with: flirt with danger.
3. To move abruptly or jerkily. 

noun,  flirt syn: coquette, vamp, vamper, minx, tease, prickteaser, flirting, flirtation, coquetry, dalliance, toying

1. a seductive woman who uses her sex appeal to exploit men (or vice versa.... duh)
2. playful behavior intended to arouse sexual interest

friend·ly   (frndl)
adj. friend·li·er, friend·li·est syn: all over, attached, big, big for, caring, crazy about, crazy for, crazy over, dear, devoted, doting, fond, friendly, huggy, kind, lovey-dovey, loving, mushy, nice, nutty about, open, partial, soft on, sweet, sympathetic, tender, warm, warm-hearted

1. Of, relating to, or befitting a friend:
2. Favorably disposed; not antagonistic:
3. Warm; comforting.
4. User-friendly,  Informal. Easy to understand or use for a specified agent.

Maybe love/lust is in the air.  Flirtatious vibes are floating all over the place.  I hear friends claiming that said person was flirting with them.  I totaly believe them when he/she says that.  It's hard to not see or understand when flirting is going on. 

Here's the tricky part.  Flirting is continuously being mistaken for friendliness.  Why is that?

Are we not reading well enough into the signals?  Are we ignoring some clues and over-dramatizing other clues?  Are we being too hopeful?  Too desparate?  How?  Who's to blame?

I think some are misunderstood because the "flirt-er" doesn't realize what their body is saying.  Hence the "body language" lesson at the top.  Therefore, the "flirt-ee" misinterprets their ren de vous.

Be aware of what you're body is saying.  You're not careless with your verbal words.  Don't be careless your visual words.